♠ THE FAQ ♠

How do I apply to meet you? What is your screening system? 

Fill out my contact form. Keep it brief- introduce yourself, state what kind of session you are interested in, and include two provider references (name, email, and website). Mistress loves brevity! A provider is not a reference if they do not have a website. If you are new with no references, a LinkedIn or professional website works to start (read below). I will act as a reference any time after seeing you, can whitelist you on TER, and OK you on P411. I will refuse to see you if you refuse to provide me with a phone number. If you are not new to this world, but screening without references, you need to make it clear to me that I am not your first. 

Screening without references: 

If you have no references, then instead of provider references on my contact form, please provide me with the following: a link to your public LinkedIn profile and/or a link to a professional business website. If you do not have either, please write me a nice, courteous message explaining that you do not have either but offer other ways that you can prove your identity in order to make me feel secure that you are not Ted Bundy. 

Once your contact form is received, and if it looks like you are an intelligent and thoughtful human being, I will write back and request that one or all of the following be provided to me: 

• A photo of a government-issued ID with sensitive information (such as your home address) covered or blurred, leaving only your full name, date of birth, and photo visible.

• Proof of employment/past employment and/or secondary ID.

Most unexpired government issued IDs will suffice in addition to professional looking work information. Following my instructions and jumping through my hoops proves your devotion and ability to follow directions. 

How far in advance do I need to book? 

As far in advance as you can! I do not accept same-day, next-day, or rarely same-week requests. Being booked out several weeks or even months ahead is completely normal for me. Patience is essential and my favorite quality in a man. Tours fill up fast so book with me as soon as you find out. Get on my city-specific mailings lists to be the first to hear about new tours! 

What happens after I submit my form? 

I will reply by email, within a week, if you have followed directions. Please wait until I contact you and do not follow up if you do not hear back for a few days. I will reply to confirm a date and time, get you screened, and then I will ask for a reservation fee. Please do not send the fee until I explicitly request it. If you must contact me to get my attention, before my response, then utilize my wish list.

How should I communicate with you? 

• Always reply to our last email thread- try not to start a new one. 

• Wait for my reply before following up. Nudge me politely if time-sensitive and over one week. 

• Keep all messages short and to the point. 

• After our first meeting, email only- no calls, texts, or P411 messages. 

• For those interested in discretion please read my blog on how to not get caught. 

How does the “deposit” work? Actually, this Mistress has a reservation fee:

My reservation fee is non-refundable and does not apply toward the session tribute. If you need to reschedule, a new one is required for the new date unless it is an act of Goddess, like a horrible snowstorm grounding all flights. Do not send this fee until I ask for it.

I do my reservation fees in angel numbers such as $333 for a three-hour session or $444 for a four-hour session to keep our session lucky. The reservation fee rarely goes above $444 unless it is a session of eight hours or more, in which case I may ask for a true deposit that goes toward the tribute when we meet. 

How do I pay the deposit? 

Electronic gift cards are to be sent to my private email only, which you will know when I respond to your contact form. I rarely check my public email RamonaRyderNYC at gmail dot com. Electronic Amazon, Whole Foods, or Uber gift cards can be used to reserve our appointment. Cash App and Bitcoin are also acceptable. I have ways to avoid a digital footprint, as well.

PLEASE DO NOT PUT A NOTE OF ANY KIND UNLESS IT IS REQUIRED.

If a note is required, say, “for cat treats” or “for leather” and so on; keep it vanilla and try to make me smile.

You are welcome to leave a cash deposit at one of our meetings to apply toward a future appointment.

What is your tribute? 

• Three hours: $3,000- my minimum 

• Four hours indoors $4500 

• Four-hour lunch date $3500 

• Four-hour dinner date $4000 

• Six to eight hours: that number × $1,000 with an outdoor activity 

• Overnight (approximately 16 hours such as 6pm-10am): $14,000 

• Anything longer: I will be happy to discuss :) 

First-time clients should pay in cash- hundred-dollar bills only, organized and front-facing, with or without an envelope. Established clients may rarely use Cash App, Venmo, Zelle, or Bitcoin. Hand me the tribute if you are coming to my place and, if I go to you, leave the tribute in the bathroom, in stacks of $1000. 

What is your cancellation policy? 

• 48 to 25-hour notice: 50% of tribute 

• Within 24 hours: full tribute 

• Overnight, within same week: 50% of tribute 

• Overnight, within 48 hours: full tribute 

• Tour, within two weeks: 50% of tribute 

• Tour, within one week: full tribute 

My time is valuable: reservation fees are never refundable or transferable unless there is an act of Goddess. True deposits for longer dates are refundable with two weeks notice. All cancellation tributes are due within 48 hours of notification. I would suggest texting my 917 number given to you during booking, on top of your emailed cancellation, so that I am sure to receive the notice. 

What gifts or offerings should I bring to our session? 

An open mind and a good attitude! If you want to bring a gift, not required, then anything off of my wish list is a good start. I adore still water in glass and fresh flowers. I prefer to only receive flowers while home in NYC. I love dark red, pink, or white roses, peonies, and ranunculus. Please do not bring me any food or sweets. If you want to feed me then I suggest a lunch or dinner date. I do not drink alcohol but feel free to bring some for yourself. For a practical gift, then a physical Amazon, Whole Foods, or Uber gift card is perfect. Please see my wish list or Instagram highlight called “wish list” for more ideas.

How can I find out what you most desire besides your wish lists- something really special? 

I love first edition or signed books by people like Eve Babitz, Hunter S. Thompson, and William S. Burroughs. I also love it when you donate to the charities on my wish list page. Rescue Spa gift certificates are perfect to send to my public or private email address and addressed to Ramona Ryder. The wish list highlight on my Instagram has cool stuff like taxidermy. 

Do you have a mailing address? 

I do have a mailing address which I will give out when asked. It is not my home, but some dear friends have an art gallery at which I can receive mail. 

How can I impress you? 

Read my FAQ. Be clear and succinct during our correspondence. Spoil me!

I tend to tryst in a four-star Union Square hotel in Manhattan and no longer have my Gramercy Park incall. You can pay an additional $333 towards the reservation fee in order for me to procure a suite at a grander five-star hotel near Wall Street, 5th Avenue and 42nd Street, West 57th Street, Central Park South, or Soho. The reservation fee covers my booking of the hotel, and the possible use of Uber, and does not go toward my tribute the day we meet. I do not use dungeons or any shared spaces.

I offer outcalls in Manhattan and Brooklyn (Williamsburg preferred) when I am home. Times Square incurs a $77 fee as it is a New Yorker’s worst nightmare.

NO Queens, Bronx, Staten Island, Long Island, New Jersey (really?), or private residences.

Where do sessions take place on tour? 

Usually in a suite at a four- or five-star hotel. We will always have a sitting area. I do not use shared spaces.

What are your hours? 

I generally see clients as early as 10am (tour only) and usually 1pm (NYC), with three-hour sessions generally ending at 9pm. I have flexibility for dinner dates and longer dates. I like to workout in the morning in NYC, hence the 1pm start time, but can see people earlier when needed.

I do not offer same-day or next-day bookings. 

Please feel free to read my blogs and my TER and PrivateDelights reviews. I wrote a specific blog that explains our anticipated time together. I also have curated playlists that you can indulge in advance of our session. I am open to requests but definitely have my favorites, from goth in the vein of Bauhaus, to surf music and Motown channeling the Pulp Fiction soundtrack, and stuff like my favorite 70s punk mix. If you enjoyed what you heard in session or want to get a better sense of my musical taste, then please visit my Ramona Ryder YouTube channel. If you are hearing impaired or very sensitive to sound and music hinders your enjoyment of a session, please notify me prior so that we can begin the scene without interruption. 

Do you travel? 

I tour select cities and my tribute stays the same when I grace those cities. I rarely say yes to “FMTY” requests but you can try me. I suggest you come to NYC. My preferred cities are Boston, San Francisco, and Los Angeles. It is easy for me to do a FMTY, or train me to you, to Philadelphia, Washington, DC, Baltimore, Chicago, Miami, Asheville, or Richmond. 

What is the deal with overnights? 

Overnights involve dinner, not that much sleep, and room service breakfast. They last approximately 16 hours, such as 6pm to 10am. I can show up before dinner to fool around and drop off my suitcase so we can go to dinner together. If it is more than two nights then I require about eight hours of sleep and space in the morning to meditate. I will need my own room for overnights lasting more than two nights unless you are on a business trip and busy all day. In that case, send me to the spa! I am at my best when I am rested with some personal time in the morning. 

What should I bring or have ready for you in general for our meeting? 

• My tribute (duh). 

• Alcohol if you want it, vapes do not bother me, and I rarely say yes to substances but try me. I personally do not “party” anymore. I may no longer drink alcohol, but feel free to imbibe booze if you wish for your own enjoyment; I want you to be comfortable and relaxed during our session. Not a lot phases me; please enjoy yourself as you wish even though my right to party has been revoked and has not yet been reinstated. 

• Something from my wish list that is easy to carry, such as a book (first edition, harder to find like HST), something small, or still water in glass at any temperature.

• I love receiving flowers of all kinds in NYC but prefer no flowers on tour.

• No attitude/topping from the bottom: Topping from the bottom is a BDSM term for a partner who takes control of a session. It involves directing the action, managing the pace, or manipulating the dominant/expert partner, often stemming from a need for control, trust issues, or past negative experiences. I am a new partner and we are starting fresh together! You should have told me everything during my intake and post-deposit planning process. 

• Preferred condoms, especially if you are larger.

• Healthy cat treats for my cat, Chopper. >^.^< 

Hygiene is non-negotiable. Be recently showered and brush your teeth within an hour of an outcall meeting and for an incall, you will shower upon arrival and I will provide mandatory mouthwash. I also provide organic liquid soap in the shower since I feel hotel soap is full of chemicals- your choice what you use. 

• Trimmed nails, toenails, and cuticles as these can damage my stockings. Please also buff calluses as these also destroy stockings. My men have a propensity to, without realizing it, rub their feet on my stocking-clad legs. 

• Clean shaven, or a full beard/mustache- no fresh stubble. 

• Good oral hygiene. 

• When you shower, wash your balls and ass like a good boy. 

• No strong scents such as cologne. 

ANAL PLAY: If we are doing any anal play on you, then a water enema is required beforehand. Use a Fleet enema bottle, empty then refill with warm water, insert and squeeze while seated on the toilet, and release immediately- do not hold it in. Repeat two to three times. Do this about two hours before our session and never at my incall. If you are nervous then take Imodium the morning of and eat lightly that day. I have a hot video on my anal page and some more information. 

What do you offer? 

My specialties include: 

● Vaginal pleasure/dick size: I do not like dicks over seven inches or super wide as my pussy is tight and my mouth is tiny. I can take larger dicks in my ass even though that is also super tight- I do not have answers to this one and it is a miracle. I offer female/internal condoms. 

● Anal pleasure on me: any size dick. I love butt plugs and can do regular or vibrating. Fingers are OK sometimes, with a glove, and if you ask for me to gape or fist me then I will never speak to you again. Yes, I do enjoy anal on me and there is no extra fee. No dildos in me! Can totally do a DP with a doubles partner. 

● Anal pleasure on you: prostate massage, p-spot pleasure, curved p-spot metal wand for the best prostate orgasm, and manually inserting dildos versus a strap-on. I can fist you if you provide the location.

● Worship on me: oral worship, DATY, face-sitting, smothering, 69, etc. 

● Worship on you: I love to give a good blow job but I will not do “cock worship” and say a script about the glory of your cock. Tell me if you need the balls or taint touched because I will skip those unless you ask for it. Venus 2000 available for a travel fee and only on the East Coast. 

● Sensation play: I can use fur, my nails, and more. If you are getting too close to coming, sometimes I will use something with a light bite to edge you back. I prefer to combine sensation play with bondage and visual sensory deprivation as you should be in suspense.

● Bondage: safe and comfortable light bondage, usually just the wrists, while still feeling restrained. I like to use leather cuffs and leather ties. Tie-points can be tricky in modern day hotel rooms, so I may have to get creative. I can also collar you for our time together like a good boy. I rarely put your arms above your head and I always make sure that comfort comes first. Oh, and I have gags but rarely use them as I want to be able to kiss you.

● Sensory deprivation: I prefer to use a soft hood but I have a silk blindfold for the more claustrophobic. We can also use earplugs if requested, but I have a good playlist, and a sexy voice, so you do not want to miss that. 

● Edging/orgasm control/tease & denial: with a tantra background, I take it slow, and it is best to warn me if you feel close as I want you to come when I tell you to come. I am an expert at not edging you so much that you cannot come, so when I say come, it is time! 

● Fetish wear: latex that is vaginally accessible, stockings (with or without back seams), PVC, nurse outfit, office wear, and schoolgirl…but really? I do love a plaid skirt and crisp white button-down shirt, though! I can easily be your punk goth girlfriend and wear a leather jacket or band tank or shirt. 

● Latex: I can do high fashion latex for lunch or dinner dates or elaborate latex play for serious fetishists only- must adore shining me and love the smell of rubber. If you want to see shiny, but are not into latex specifically, then request shiny or PVC please!

● Nipple play: sensual activities such as nails, teeth, tongue, and my lips softly grazing your hard nipples. 

● Pain: not really my thing, unless you are a true masochist- I am a sensual domme not a hardcore capital “D” Dominatrix these days. 

● Miscellaneous: high-heel worship, stocking worship (no bare feet), and lingerie fetish such as bullet bras and retro. 

● Soft limits: role play, elaborate fantasy scenes requiring outfits and multiple instruments/props, spanking, face-slapping, spitting, trampling, needles, sounding, e-stim, violet wand (travel fee), CBT, impact implements/corporal, nails that leave a mark, NT, etc.- you can always ask if I do more hardcore fetish or Dominatrix activities, but it is up to me whether it is right for our session.

I am a tantric provider first above all else, so the energy exchange must be hot, heavy, and sensual. I have had extremely beautiful sessions involving caning, spanking, and a lot more hardcore BDSM, but only with those who drip for it.

What are your hard limits? 

• Touching my face, neck, head, or hair. 

• Topping from the bottom/telling me what to do incessantly. 

• Adding new activities during a session without asking me before our meeting. 

• Toilet play piss play/golden showers and whatever else a toilet entails. 

• Anything messy fisting without you hosting, massage with oil, or anything generally deemed messy. 

• Bare back, rubbing/touching genitals together.

• Photographs or filming no camera glasses- read the blog! 

• Role play because most of you are really bad at acting so it can be awkward. We can discuss role play if you can reflect my acting skills! 

• Dirty talk as I prefer to feel the heat and passion, not name it. Not speaking can and will strengthen our intensity. 

• Fantasy involving feminization, sissification, people not present, forced bi, elaborate role plays, or CNC. 

• A third party that I do not know whether it is a personal partner or provider- my friends list is here.

• Degradation of any kind including race, gender, religion, or body type. I do not enjoy verbal teasing, humiliation, or being mean and I will not do this ever. 

• Smoking fetish. 

• Forced intoxication/intox you can drink or bring other substances, with permission, but I will not give them to you. 

• Being fully nude I will always have a garter, basque, or waist-cincher on with stockings. 

• Bare feet/footjobs. 

• Watches worn during sessions…especially an Apple Watch! 

How do I share my own physical concerns and erectile dysfunction? 

It is always best to tell me everything in the contact form succinctly! Include your hard limits, injuries, physical limitations, or relevant health or sexual conditions. Some things to mention could be if you are obese, hearing or visual impairment, erectile dysfunction, or maybe inability to come with a partner. I will always respect these concerns and work around them, e.g., I have special cuffs and collars for larger men. Do not list things already on my no-list above- it tells me you have not read the FAQ but I guess if you got this far then we will get along just fine. 

What about wardrobe requests? 

Classic lingerie, latex (with crotch access and only for real rubber fetishists), leather, vinyl, PVC, and pin-up are all in my rotation. I have black, leopard print, zebra print, white, green, red, and pink lingerie. I have bodysuits and basques in sheer, lace, and latex. I have a huge collection of Agent Provocateur, Bordelle, Honey Birdette, and an insane collection of latex. I will never be fully nude, always in garters and stockings, or at least a waist-cincher. Do not request an outfit you have not already seen me in unless you are offering to buy it. 

How do I book again after our first session? 

Reply to our last email with your preferred date, session length, and a time. No new threads, no new contact form resubmissions, and no P411 messages. 

Do you want reviews on TER or PrivateDelights? 

Yes, but please ask first, and ideally tell me before our session. TER and PrivateDelights are my preferred platforms for reviews. Both sites are a good way to get to know me before we meet as YMMV does not really apply to this Mistress.

Can I use you as a reference after we meet? 

Just give out my private email and no need to ask first- there is no expiration date for this. I can verify you on all review and verification sites, such as P411, when requested. 

Ramona man perks:

• You may text me to try and book same week on my 917 number since you are already screened- worth a shot.

• I have an elite mailing list for all my seen Ramona men with exclusive material.