HANKY PANKY
If you know me, then you know I’m into anal play both ways. I started training my ass in college with a dildo when I was masturbating. I discovered that using a lot of lube and sitting on it slowly versus being penetrated from behind was a lot easier for me to handle. The end result was a fantastic orgasm. Of course, we all know today that I can take it any which way and a myriad of sizes. After all, I am the Anal Queen, which is a fond nickname of mine.
I take it up the ass and I also find a lot of pleasure in giving to others. I have been a master at finger prostate massages for quite some time now and was deemed a natural by my first prospects. I tailor every massage to each person’s specific anatomy and comfort level. Sometimes I use certain prostate stimulating devices or a vibrator. It is a real skill to be able to read another’s insides and figure out what they need in order to have a hardcore orgasm. Pain is not my game when it comes to anal play. The pro tip is using a lot of lube and going slowly. There is no such thing as too much lube!
Not only did my first prospects indoctrinate me into giving anal pleasure, but I was also trained by many renowned Dominants in San Francisco. My favorite Dominants were from the queer leather scene. I found the BDSM protocol that emerged from the leather scene in the 70s and 80s to be very useful in my practice of kink. The conduct of BDSM, based upon respect, is part of what keeps a player safe in a scene.
One of the ways of attracting others who want what you want is by “flagging” or wearing a bandana to signal a sexual preference. For example, I sometimes wear a red banana on my left side at BDSM play parties. This indicates that I am a fist fucker, which is true. I run the full gamut with anal play from a slim finger in the arse to a full-blown penetration going to my elbow. Some read the red bandana as an indication of any form of anal penetration and not necessarily full fisting.
I appreciate the simplicity and directness of the hanky code. It keeps things safer when a person can state their sexual preferences in a clear way before playing with another. The wearing of bandanas, or using the hanky code, to signal sexual preference was a covert sartorial code used predominantly by queer men. Simply put, a bandana is worn in one's back pocket for the purposes of sexual signaling. The hanky code initially began with the use of red bandanas on the left side to discreetly identify practitioners of fisting.
Alan Selby, the founder of Mr. S Leather, a BDSM store in San Francisco, claimed that he created the first hanky code with his business partners at Leather 'n' Things in 1972. Apparently, their bandana supplier inadvertently doubled their order, and the popularizing of the hanky code would help them sell the extra colors they had received. Today, Mr. S is still the place to go for all anal pleasure needs and the staff are great with any questions you can shoot at them.
So, there you have it- I love it up the ass, I can give it up the ass, and kink history is always interesting. I hope I did not make you nervous reading this as anal pleasure is not for everyone. My goal, in every session, is to respect boundaries and focus on the rapture of sexual inhibition that we create together. But, if you are into anal fun, then you know where to find the Anal Queen of NYC.
Your Mistress,
Ramona Ryder
